Originally featured on a Carried Away Life: November 18, 2015
Magic can bit of a cruel mistress, as well. Just like time, they are doing it for our own good but will not tell us exactly what they are doing…It is a bit of tough love and torture combined.
Deprivation of one sense yet overloading of the others, throwing us off-balance until we have no idea what really matters and which end is up. Magic is the antidote to time…and time tempers the hysteria of magic…they are almost always out of balance yet never far from the other. Magic makes us feel invincible and godlike and it is a bit of a drug that convinces us of things that we don’t normally believe we can do when we are not under the influence…Our sober side thinks about getting 8 hours of sleep and starting the day fresh and all the responsibility.
Magic allows us to stay up all night fucking a new lover and not really being honest when the timid voice inside our head asks if it’s the best thing for us to do? The same timid voice that reminds us how much we may have to pay for this in a day, month or down the road.
Magic is the cute girl that everyone wants to be around at any costs. We don’t ask if she is really real. It just is……It is ribbons of merriment, promise, love and lust, nothing else matters and everything is possible….it all is swirling around in the moonlight, waking up neighbors and pretending we don’t care if they get mad…
Because the shit feels that good! It is the most addictive drug. Like a drug, it will convince you to give up your child…leave your partner…lose your house…your career…all your worldly possessions. You get caught up in the magic.. you are seduced by magic. She stroked your cheek at just the right moment…she held your hungry glance for seconds longer than you have ever felt. And it felt, really and truly, as though she saw you. I mean really saw you. And now, you are back to feeling alive again…and like that…you are hooked like a junkie after it’s first fix.
Magic is the antidote to time…
I apologize for being a little MIA for the past month or so. Its been hectic at the small non-profit I work at. Of course I work at a non-profit as my day job, I'm a queer lady gay boi. Let's just say its been busy in my non-profitty world. Support your local non-profits! Moving on...here's my five things to know this week list.
1. I was looking up the word "lesbro" in the Urban Dictionary and the top definition was heterosexual man who is friends with lots of lesbians, the opposite of a fag hag. However, the fifth definition - the one I use - says, "A lesbian who is close friends with another lesbian in the same way that two dudes are bros." I have been building my lesbro contingency and its been good.
2. Gay brunch: is basically brunch with two or more gay people, and Mimosas and Bloody Marys. Usually between the hours of 11am - 2pm. I've designated Saturdays to be "big gay brunch" day! Make it so.
3. The favorite and beloved "pop culture website that plays for our team" AfterEllen will be no more by this Friday. After fourteen years of being on the interwebs they will shut their virtual doors. They will continue to have the website up and have the articles archived and maybe every once in a blue moon someone will post a new article. Other then that, we'll miss our top 15 Hottest Butch Women (Identified) List. Here's a great article talking about it: Eulogy for the Living: On losing AfterEllen and Queer Women's Spaces.
4. One of the Royals came out the other day Lord Ivar Mountbatten. Congratulations and happy coming out!
5. The next big legal fight, strangely, is the ability to use the bathroom that matches a person''s gender identity. Marriage now bathrooms. What is going on with those Alt-right Conservative Republican folks!? Can we address things like the lack of skilled labor, or the crushing student debt that Millennials and Gen Zers are or will be experiencing when they graduate university. You know, issues that really matter. Bedrooms now bathrooms. Ugh! Let the fight begin, we are ready to "gird our loins." The Supreme Court issued a stay for a school to continue to block a boy (who was born a girl) from using the boys restroom. Here's an article about it: School board, sued by transgender student, asks for Supreme Court review in bathroom case
Last year in 2015, Buzzfeed put out a video exploring what "Female Masculinity" meant to a group of people who identified on different ends of the gender and female masculinity spectrum.
Trish Bendix also wrote a brief piece along with the video Titled the Spectrum of Female Masculinity.
There's also a book written by Judith Halberstam called Female Masculinity, that explores the idea of what that means. Here's a short description from Amazon, "Masculinity without men. In Female Masculinity Judith Halberstam takes aim at the protected status of male masculinity and shows that female masculinity has offered a distinct alternative to it for well over two hundred years. Providing the first full-length study on this subject, Halberstam catalogs the diversity of gender expressions among masculine women from nineteenth-century pre-lesbian practices to contemporary drag king performances.."
Masculinity is not exclusively male. Cumberbund is feeling the love.